As we are growing up…We all think about what we want our relationships to be like.  Think back now, to when you were younger… is the life you have now, the relationship that you are in… what you had always dreamed of? Do you give your all in the relationship?  If not…Then why? Isn’t that what a relationship is all about?

Just existing together is not good enough…  just plodding along, day by day, without truly connecting and “getting” each other and looking forward to being with each other – just doesn’t cut the mustard…. No sireeee!!  

When you got into the relationship you made a conscious decision to be together – to support one another and a subconscious decision to dedicate yourself to your partner’s happiness! “What do you mean” I hear you say… “I got into this relationship for myself – because I wanted to!” Sure you did – but in entering into a relationship, you also made a subconscious decision to take on board your partner’s feelings and future.  To care about them – love them, flaws and all… to want the very best for them in life… success, fulfilment, security and contentment with you.

A relationship is more than just a friendship…it is a commitment to each other. You have to have an inner passion for your relationship to succeed. You have to want to create a life together…to have romance, to have goals, dreams and aspirations together. A lasting relationship is one where you support one another through the good times and the bad… where you understand your partner’s feelings and know how to compromise.   

You have to continue to make the effort to love passionately… with all of your being. To give all of yourself both mind and body. You have to share your inner most thoughts and darkest feelings.  It’s not for the lazy or the half hearted… there is no such thing as “I can’t be bothered” when you’re in a relationship… because baby… it ain’t just about you anymore!!

And listen, I know we all go through difficult times in relationships – we can get a little bored or take one another for granted. But once you are aware of your feelings – then if these negative relationship busting thoughts come creeping back into your consciousness…. Then all you have to do is change the pattern. Do something different in your relationship… go on a date… be romantic… surprise your loved one like you would have done when you first started going out! You’re never too old or to long together to bring a little sugar and spice back into both of your lives!

So go on – live your life together with passion… it will bring back the feelings of that “honeymoon” phase and make you wonder why you haven’t been living with passion until now! Make a change… the time is now!!

Llluuurrrvvvveeeee,

Katie-Jane xx

P.S – start with a simple complement to your partner right now… it can be anything at all… just say something that you know will make them feel good about themselves…. Cos I bet after you say it… it will make you feel good about yourself to! Email me on This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it and let me know your thoughts and changes… I love hearing from you all! You can also send me video recordings to be put up on goldinuniverse if you wish!! You could inspire someone else to change their lives for the better too!