Goldin Girl Column

Tell them in a humorous way that they are annoying you!!

Every couple annoy each other in some little way or another..... Whether it's leaving toothpaste all over the sink... putting an empty orange juice carton back in the fridge.... or pressing the snooze button on the alarm clock 17 times before they eventually get up. Every couple have their own quirky things that push each other's buttons and trigger those feelings of annoyance we get inside us from time to time. Every person on this earth is an individual - and when two individuals live together - their habits can annoy one another... question is... what are you going to do about it in order to keep your sanity and not upset your partner or cause an argument?!

De- clutter your life and your mind will feel cleaner

The majority of people have a tendency to hoard stuff.... to collect junk... pick up bits and pieces along their life road... they keep everything they have ever had in their possession and eventually what they call "stuff that has meaning" or "stuff that could be worth something one day" turns to what an onlooker would refer to as clutter. A cluttered home is synonymous with a cluttered mind.

You cannot make them love you...

So you think you've found Mr or Mrs Right... your head over heels... problem is... they're not really that into it. You're trying to do everything you can to get them to realise that you are "The One"... bending over backwards for them in the hope that they will reciprocate your feelings 10 fold.... But you seem to have this niggling feeling in your tummy that they just won't.

If you've been together for a while - I'm sure you know they like you... perhaps the relationship is easy for them... and for you... you get on very well together... but deep down inside, if you really stop to think about it... and ask yourself one of the hardest questions in the love department "Do they really love me?" and if your gut feeling...says "I'm not quite sure!" then that should be your warning signal to get your nikes on your bikeies and start peddling!!

People will find it hard to love you… until you love yourself!

You've probably heard the saying before "One must love themselves before another can love them"... I don't know where I heard that actually - maybe I made it up?!?! Either way it's something I tell my clients at The Paul Goldin Clinic on a regular basis. Let's break it down for some Goldin Analysis.... It is a Goldin Fact that if you are unhappy with who you are, how your inner self is and sees the world, if you feel out of sync with your subconscious mind and unconnected with who you really are.... Then how can you possibly feel 100% connected to another human being?! The reality is... you couldn't.

Behave and Respect your Partner better than your best friend!

This is something that if you think about consciously for a moment or two – you will realise that a lot – if not most people treat their partner with less respect than they would a good friend. What do I mean by that – well think about it – if your friend does something silly – acts in a stupid way or says something you don’t agree with – you would usually just laugh it off? But if your partner does something along the same lines – a lot of people would jump down their throat - belittle them, nag, tell people what they did and probably not allow them to forget it for a very very long time! You see where I’m going here? Couples are mean to each other and that shouldn’t be the case. They SHOULD, like I said, behave better towards each other than they do with their friends…. Because at the end of the day – your partner should really be your best friend (as well as your love)!