Goldin Girl Column

Say it with meaning…

How often do you complement or say something meaningful and nice to your partner? Let’s be honest here… A lot of you rarely would or if you do… perhaps it’s routine things like telling your partner you love them when they are going out – or when you go to bed at night in a routine type manner…. but when you say something too often in a throwaway type manner – it loses its value.

Ask your intuition for a second opinion!

Have you ever been in a situation where you're just not sure what the right thing to do is? And then maybe you went ahead and did something with an unsure feeling attached to it?! Well, if you just stopped to think about it first - then you would in fact realise that you did know what to do all along!

Deep down inside us there is a resource of knowledge - of inner wisdom - that has the answers to everything you could ever want to know about yourself, your life and your own decisions!! It's called your intuition! You have to learn how to listen to your intuition and use it to your advantage - because when you don't listen to it - that's when we mess up and do things we shouldn't.

Open your mind and realise that your future friends are currently strangers!!

It's funny how people seem to stick to their own group of established friends and not allow anyone else in. You know - your best mates today - were once strangers! How weird is that?! Think about that for a moment... you weren't born knowing them... and they are not family... so what made you become friends with them in the first place? What did you think of them the very first time you met? Did you like them immediately? Were you jealous of them? Were you intimidated by them... or were you the one who intimidated them? Or perhaps you had a preconceived idea of what they were like!! Either way -I bet you never thought that they would become one of your best friends!!

Forgiveness is a skill that must be learned....

This can be a really touchy subject... it's really hard to forgive someone that has hurt you. But the truth is - as soon as you do forgive them - you begin to feel better and the feelings associated with that person that hurt you, seem to just melt away....

You have to learn how to forgive.... I believe it's a skill... and the reason that you have to learn how to do it... is because it's not exactly that easy to do!! People often say "Just forgive them", thinking of "forgiving" as just words - thinking once you say the words "I forgive", then all the pain attached to why you need to forgive them in the first place... will just disappear. But it doesn't. Because they are just words - and words don't mean anything unless you can subconsciously attach them to your inner thoughts and feelings.

When I become a butterfly

The truth is.... I've been grieving pretty badly for my dad - Paul Goldin.....And I know the only thing that helps is.... time... That's what my dad used to say and the advice he gave for a person who attended the clinic with grief....so that's what I've been counting on... as time passes I hope to feel stronger.